To Paneros on the third of the month

Four loves I have heard named, four modes of loving;
some are called purer or better than others, loves
with more of soul and less of body. Child of Panpsyche
and Panhyle, great Paneros, in your embrace I know
that is a lie: All love is your love, all love is eros,
and in that love, erotic love, may I ever dwell.


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7 thoughts on “To Paneros on the third of the month”

  1. Lovely! Thanks for doing this, once again!

    Can you remind me: the four modes of loving? I’ve heard of these before (in a Christian context, if I am not mistaken), but it’s been a while…


    1. I was thinking of C.S. Lewis, The Four Loves, from the Greek: Eros, philia, agape, and storge. Philia is rendered as friendship; agape went into Latin as caritas and came out charity, and in Christian thought is often identified with Divine Love and called the highest or purest; and storge is rendered by Lewis as affection–I seem to recall that he uses the relationship between Man and Dog as an example.

      I genuinely do believe that at root, all love is erotic love, which is not necessarily the same as sexually expressed love. It’s part of why I write slash: If these two guys love each other *that much*, don’t tell me they’re just buddies, it’s erotic.


      1. Ah…storge was the one I wasn’t as familiar with; I knew the other three…

        (Interestingly enough, I think there’s a porn star called Storge. I wonder if that’s where she got the name?)

        I agree on eros; I am a huge fan of Audre Lorde Sancta‘s words on the matter, and they’ve been a guiding force for me since late 1998.


    1. Well, you may as well start with her biggest hit, “Royals,” which is quite catchy.

      Oops, sorry–wrong Lorde. (And the worst fake pun EVAR!)

      The one that utterly caught me is an essay from Sister, Outsider (if I am not mistaken) called “The Uses of the Erotic: The Erotic as Power” (again, if I am remembering right). It’s been heavily anthologized elsewhere, which is where I first encountered it: a textbook in my Christian Sexual Morality class called Sexuality and the Sacred or something like that. Anyway…


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